What the Hell Happened to Women?

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wendy87 · 7/6/2025, 2:14:37 PM · permalink

The trend is not just in the West. SA is also experiencing lower marriage rates etc. It used to take a decade for what was happening in the US to trickle down to SA, but the rise of instant comms has spread up this process.  
  
I spoke with my mom about this a few months back because I realised something... When I was a little girl, I was told to study and be a boss lady. Marriage and family was not a concept that was promoted to me as a child. I was not told about the spiritual significance of being a wife and mother. I got married at 22 or 23 and he walked out just before my 31st because he said he never loved me. As sad as I was at the time, I am grateful that I came back to my faith, I would never have walked back into a Church if I were still married. My mindset is different to the average woman my age (37 now) because I refuse to partake in proper social media, choosing to not expose myself to brain-rotting material. Both of my brother's wives have left my brothers in the last 2 years and have tried to take everything from them. Was at a Sacristan workshop yesterday and the Priest running the workshop said something profound, there has been an inversion of all that is good, beautiful and sacred. He specifically mentioned "lex orandi, lex credendi, lex vivendi", latin for "As we believe, so we worship, so we live" - this was what he said had been inverted. My thought is that the more people are told to focus on themselves and self-love/healing and doing "what's best for me", the greater this divide will become. We cannot change the world and most people do not want to hear that what they are saying is satanic (in the true sense of worship of self and not the devil) as it will trigger their sensibilities, but we can try and meet people where they are with love and mercy just as we wish them to approach us. It starts with approaching people and reminding ourselves that we are just the same sinner as they and knowing what they had not been exposed to in their life or even just that day.   
It is sad that statistics like these exist, but the problem is global.  
Gosh, not sure this essay explains much, but just my 2 cents.

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seraphima · 7/3/2025, 2:31:29 PM · permalink

Here’s my two cents (as an ex-liberal feminist):   
  
I can’t speak for anyone else or from a cultural perspective other than my own, obviously. What I know is that here, in the US, male/female relationships have largely, historically, not been about love. Most marriages have been vehicles for political, economic, and social manipulation. Most marriages have been, at their core, business arrangements. Women have always been seen as the “fairer” (read: inferior) sex. As such, reasons for their oppression and domination have been rationalized and legally justified and women were taught to be grateful. They should be grateful that a man, any man, chooses to enter into such an arrangement. It’s like men marry women as a favor to them. Women didn’t deserve love, intimacy, and equality. They didn’t deserve education or the right to vote. They didn’t deserve to be heard but only seen. They were merely things, just more trophies to be added to the other long list of each man’s individual accomplishments. No woman = no respect with other men. Women were just the cherry on the self-congratulatory sundae. Men never needed women. Right? After so long, women got the picture. We felt our place as property and mostly unwanted baggage. We felt the resentment.   
  
Fast forward: Now, women have embraced themselves as merely sexual objects, exploiting themselves for what’s between their legs. It’s gross and dehumanizing but that’s the message we received. For every action, there is an equal and opposite reaction. While feminism has been an ultimate net loss, it should be clear that it was an emotional reaction. Men and women are very different and men want feminine women—nurturing, caring, sensitive souls but then, when women are emotional, some men see that as an unreasonable imposition: How dare you put your feelings on me! I can’t and won’t deal with you as a person. I want you to be not me but also an extension of me at the same time. Yes, male expectations are so logical. Then, the pendulum went the other way. When feminism showed its ugly truth, men were emasculated. They then felt it was necessary to embrace that lie so as to appeal to “powerful” women. They chose to debase themselves by being feminine and relinquished their desire to be providers and protectors. There are a lot of men now who refuse to work. They want to be stay at home dads. They have no problem with a women who is the breadwinner and then comes home and tells him what to do. He finds comfort in not being a leader. To me, being a man is an incredibly difficult thing. The responsibility of being strong emotionally, mentally, physically, and spiritually is an immense burden and one that some women chose to take and some men chose to give.  
  
TLDR; men subjugated and dehumanized women. Women took control back but too much. Men then, rather than course correct, chose to relent and allow this abomination. Now, we have men who don’t know who they are and women who don’t know who they are and it’s the blind leading the blind straight to hell. If you’re gonna be “based,” though and you think that men should shoulder a majority of the responsibility for leadership then you also have to accept that they have a majority of the blame for how women are now.

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