Comment on Who is ultimately responsible for the well-being of children? by turkey

Parent Post: Who is ultimately responsible for the well-being of children? · In Reply To

turkey · 9/5/2025, 10:47:36 PM · permalink

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saarnok · 9/6/2025, 12:42:01 AM · permalink

Who's paying for it is irrelevant as relates to whether it's behavior we accept. What I was pointing out was that abuse is in the eye of the beholder. Circumcision is mutilation. Female circumcision is mutilation. Trans surgery is mutilation.  
  
Persons who perform such mutilation on persons who are not considered competent to have informed consent should be treated exactly the same as people who cut off body parts in general.  
  
I also add in people who choose to alter their child's immune systems as mutilators.  
  
I understand your point of parental rights. Really. Totally. I get it. No explanation needed.  
  
My point is that kids are not human art projects to be carved into whatever we imagine we'd prefer they resemble.  
  
Otherwise, where do we draw the line and what principle do we use to draw that line? What if I'm sure (and correct) that my son will go further in life if he has one of his legs replaced with a prosthetic? I'm doing it for his benefit. What principle are you articulating or drawing from which would tell me NO?  
  
Children are the perfect example of "no easy answers". Somewhere between when they're born and when they die they become "adults", fully responsible for their own well, being. There's no better (though imperfect) means of determining this than to simply set an age at which they simply are considered responsible.  
  
It would be far better if there was something like a certification they could apply for at any time to become "adults" with a clear host of benefits and responsibilities attendant with that certification. It would also be better if parents could cut them loose at some point when they have lost control and divest responsibility from their kids, leaving those kids in the position of needing to get their adult certification in order to get on with life, or failing that to live without the privileges of an adult.  
  
Our earlier society where kids basically had no rights whatsoever was actually better than the one where they have rights without responsibilities. Every member of the community was empowered to act in some respect similar to a Guardian Ad Litem to police abuses. Parents were responsible for their kids actions. And to some relatively reasonable extent things pretty much worked out.

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hyokkim · 9/8/2025, 6:48:02 PM · permalink

You are lying; here is the proof.  
  
''Not so simple as all that. Though we'd like to think it is.

One person imagines that someone who doesn't vaccinate is killing their children even as they subject their own children to trans surgery.

I'd simply ban Islam or any other religion which practices child mutilation... which is what I consider both vaccination and circumcision to be.

Ultimately it's just a question of what boundaries we've had impressed on our sensibilities.'' - saarnok  
  
You are deciding what is and what is not acceptable for every parents out there.   You are just in denial.  
  
''I still advocate for stopping bank robbers... because I do not approve of bank robbers and robbery.''  
  
You don't approve of people consenting to sexual mutilation/gender surgery to their children, how are you going to stop them?  
  
You don't approve of Islam, how are you going to ban it?  
  
''If I approved of bank robbers and robbery, then I'd not want the government/people involved in stopping them.''  
  
So there is your lie; I did not say I do not want the government/people involved in stopping them.     
  
''I don't approve of lots of things parents do, but those things are not deliberately harmful.''  
  
So, you are going to decide what is and is not deliberately harmful?  
  
So, the children were taken from the parents, who's going to take care of them, you?  
  
''You're not providing any standard for how a society can determine whether there should be intervention in someones actions. If you provided some principle of how we can sort out where the lines are, that would be helpful.

I don't even know why you'd object to having your position characterized this way.

Either you're fine with people murdering/prostituting/mutilating kids and think no one should intervene or you're not.''  
  
I believe I had in other posts, multiple times.   I believe in OTNI; outside OTNI, I believe it is best overall, not perfect, the least imperfect solution is to let the parents be responsible for their own children.    For the same reason, why I believe let the woman decide if she wants to have her baby killed before being born, and if she decided to have the baby born, and then let her be responsible for the upkeep, not the father, not the government, not the tax payers, unless it involves OTNI.

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saarnok · 9/9/2025, 3:16:50 AM · permalink

I don't know what OTNI means, and a web search didn't reveal it either. So... no point in addressing that.  
  
"So there is your lie; I did not say I do not want the government/people involved in stopping them. "  
  
You seem to have. And even in this response you've done it again. "So, you are going to decide what is and is not deliberately harmful?

So, the children were taken from the parents, who's going to take care of them, you?"  
  
Yes. If that's what it takes. But, what you're saying here is simply a question of practicality. So, what do we do once we've determined a bank has been robbed or a murder has been committed? Do we wring our hands about the "responsibility" associated? No. We figure out some sort of practical solution and implement it. Using that as a stopping point is denoting that the problem isn't big enough to concern ourselves with. In short, that we don't care.  
  
But, this little sneaky switcheroo of trying to inject "responsibility" into the equation. That's devious. Worse than a lie. It's a deliberate alteration of the discussion to avoid the principles at hand.  
  
Responsible simply means "your problem". You're responsible for the cleanliness of your floor. You're obligated to not harm other people deliberately. That doesn't make you responsible for them whether you're responsible for them in the first place or not.  
  
Let's suppose a scenario where you have slaves. You would be responsible for their well being or lack thereof, but you'd be obligated to not deliberately harm them. If you had employees you'd be responsible for all the attendant concerns of employees at work and obligated to not deliberately harm them. If you have children, you're responsible for them and obligated to not deliberately harm them.  
  
Now, let's address the matter of deciding for every parent what harm means: Harm is measurable. It exists in the real world, it is not a statistical construct. Just as if you are attacked: We can count the bruises or stab wounds or gunshots, measure the length of the incisions, measure the levels of poison administered, etc., etc.  
  
It's not subjective. It's not simply a declaration that your male has been brainwashed into believing he's female and you're abusing him by refusing to call him a girl.  
  
Possibly the most absurd question is "how do you ban Islam?" Really simple. Islam is banned. Done. Don't like it? Get out. Judaism is banned. Don't like it? Get out. Circumcising Christians are banned. Don't like it? Get out. Anyone who practices such things is imprisoned, fined and or executed.  
  
It's no different from any other crime. The fact that we can't prevent every single crime has no bearing on whether or not we should tolerate it. I can't eliminate every gopher digging on my farm... so I do nothing? Of course not. I can't eliminate the possibility of a leak in my roof ... so I do nothing? Of course not.  
  
Either you've not clearly stated your position, or you have. You quite simply have not, even when goaded to do so allowed the possibility that parents should be held legally liable for harming their kids. In fact you've spent considerable time implying that it's too much bother, that you don't care about kids and neither does anyone else. Essentially, you're making the case that attempting to address the issue is a bit like intervening to prevent people from controlling vermin in their homes.

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