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Parent Post: Does Love Have Limits?
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seraphima
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8/13/2025, 4:24:57 PM
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Hi! I’m just now seeing all of this! Are you familiar with attachment styles? If so, I’d be interested in knowing your understanding of how avoidant types misunderstand secure and healthy bonding with what is “clingy.” I’ve noticed some people misunderstand what that even means or how to have compassion for anxious styles. I’ve done some basic reading and it seems like a lot of people aren’t really hardwired for healthy relationships and that require a lot of work that maybe they aren’t ready or willing to do.
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tikvah
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8/13/2025, 4:48:19 PM
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You're right, most people are NOT hardwired for healthy relationships any longer. What we have to do is ask ourselves WHY? And how can we or do we fix it? We can't change another person, all we can do is listen. Oft times when we sit back and listen it will change more of ourselves rather than the other person. With that said, each individual person/place/thing/relationship must be handled individually and on it's merits. There is a lot of hurt and pain and confusion/chaos in the world, and the Creator of All, is not the author of that. Mankind has created that themselves. So what is the solution? We must get back to our Creator and to a relationship with Him, not a religion, a relationship. Once we begin to understand and work on/work with/instill the morals of life that have been given to mankind 3000+ years ago, understand them correctly and implement them in our lives then everyone and everything will begin to change in the whole world, even in the universe. It's starts with SELF. I hope that helps.
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seraphima
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8/13/2025, 5:05:20 PM
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Thank you! ☺️
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