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p/freethinkers
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4/23/2025, 5:38:04 AM
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seraphima
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4/23/2025, 7:19:29 PM
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I feel you, sis. It sure feels like it, I know, but the fact is you’re not alone and while it’s cold, ice cold, comfort—we’re all here.
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simms
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4/24/2025, 3:56:12 AM
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I’m sorry I can’t give a better answer cause I have stopped trying to fit in years ago so difference are lost on me; but I can pass down these nuggets… We’re re all here because we’re not all there. it’s better to be alone alone. and if the streets were lined with diamonds we wouldn’t value them. In summation l feel we all struggle with connection and the more aware of and in touch with who we are the harder it will feel to connect superficially. We might feel desire to connect but without alignment interactions can feel hollow even exhausting. But keep faith their are glowing souls everywhere and we find them when we stop trying to polish turds and forcing ourselves into spaces and situations that don’t bless our lives
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4/25/2025, 2:02:19 PM
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sacredcow
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4/23/2025, 10:39:14 PM
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I would imagine it is difficult today for girls to find a good guy. Most dudes aren't interacting with other people today.
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q2025
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4/23/2025, 6:04:16 AM
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From what I can see, you're incredibly mature for someone your age. And though that's a blessing, it often also becomes a curse because it makes you a mismatch for most. I remember talking about politics and history and faith and religion and spirituality in high school and college and I'd get the weirdest looks so I had to dumb myself down a little, just to fit in better. Its not easy being on the right path when it comes to intellect or religion. Hang in there. This too shall pass
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cynamist
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4/24/2025, 6:15:50 AM
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I believe this is intended. 'Divide and Conquer'...especially with Christians or anyone Conservative. I feel like it use to be just natural to create friendships and relationships, or at least easier to try to find them. This to me is a manufactured agenda in schools and groups to segregate and even shame those who are conservative. It's made people so afraid and guarded of saying anything wrong. If you trust and love God... This is a very difficult time to be in. Know what you want and align yourself to that. It's not what a person says, it is what they do. I pray, hope you find what blesses your life.
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privacyplease
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4/25/2025, 4:04:16 AM
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the fact americans call 26 year olds youth is wild.
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4/25/2025, 1:51:25 PM
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Maybe it's because you're going down the wrong path to meet your future husband or at the very least make friends with good people. You're a practicing Christian, but yet you find yourself willingly in one of satan's play grounds - bars and drink alcohol. You're going to a location that is know for people to not just drink, watch sports, play pool/darts, but to find hookups - one night stands or f-buddies. Try finding another activity, what's some of the things you like to do? Do you surf? To you go trekking? Do you go to the gym? Do you go bowling? What are your hobbies? Or better yet, is church your place of peace, are you truly dedicated to your religion? Go there to find friends and your future husband. Make a real checklist of priorities and be principled. Your likes and dislikes and their level of importance and don't sacrifice for anyone even if they're incredibly hot or wealthy etc.. Lastly, drop the alcohol consumption. Be real, alcohol tastes like chit. And you'd have to dump a crap load of sugar into it to make it even palpable. And if you have a problem with quitting, you need to pray for the will and strength to quit drinking, it will come. God is the best of all Planners. There's a reason why you're in this position, get on the righteous path and God will bring your prayers to reality.
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braven
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4/23/2025, 5:47:33 PM
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It seems as if by design that relationships are more difficult than before. Especially for youth. For us older ones, we have something to compare this to. Under 30....not much chance to see where all this is coming from. For the young women, this will be difficult. For the young men, it will be near impossible. There are many barriers and few good reasons for men to seek a permanent relationship. They will have better success finding a unicorn. For the young women, quite likely, they will have to either lower their standards immeasurably, which would not be good, or learn to live as a healthy independent souls. Not a bad pattern in that by the way. Take up golf. It is a lifelong skill and can be highly social. I have quiet a few young woman taking lessons, and they pretty much echo your sentiments. Golf is growing, especially among women. It will challenge you in ways some young men might not...something like that. Peace and the best of success in your journey.
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tajudeen_bin_tijani
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4/23/2025, 7:36:17 AM
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You should be picky, it is supposed to be for the rest of your life. Work on your relationship with God, and seek someone who is doing exactly the same. Pray to God for your pairing. #PrayingWhileSlaving Mark 10:6-9 “But at the beginning of creation God ‘made them male and female.’ ‘For this reason a man will leave his father and mother and be united to his wife, and the two will become one flesh.’ So they are no longer two, but one flesh. Therefore what God has joined together, let no one separate.”
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nevertheless
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4/23/2025, 5:43:05 AM
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Social skills are lacking across multiple generations. It’s not just you.
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4/23/2025, 6:41:59 AM
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Things to think about: 1\] It is okay to do things on your own, do invite others to join you 2\] What are fun free things available to you in your community. Do you have a park, fly a kyte, do you have community sports (adult league) join,. Do you have great outdoors, hike. Do basic things that may feel dumb. Play pickle ball. 3\] Don't let the weather stop you. Keep extra jackets and shoes in your car or backpack. 4\] Get a bicycle or mountain bike What I do: I have whatsapp group from all over the US and share photos with. Monday I text one person I know who may ride bikes, and see if he can ride during the week. I text another friend to see if she can hike. I ask other friend on the phone if they can mountain bike on the weekend. I plan fishing once in a while. I contact my brother's if they want to garden or mountain bike. I play pickle ball with people at the park and softball in adult league. Ask people at church if they want to walk and explore an area and take photos on your phone.
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