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sonatime
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11/23/2025, 3:40:58 PM
An Unexamined Life
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seraphima
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1/18/2026, 12:15:34 AM
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“People will do anything, no matter how absurd, in order to avoid facing their own psyche.” I like this post so wanted to contribute. It’s not my stuff but coming from AI in case anyone else, other than me, finds this fascinating and wants to learn more. From what I’ve read, supposedly these are (some) of the steps or the ones that stand out to me in terms of development or, rather, how to examine one’s life: 1\. Self-awareness 2\. Initialization 3\. Differentiation Self-awareness, self-initialization, and differentiation are distinct developmental stages or components of personal growth that trace the journey from a state of undifferentiated awareness to an autonomous, emotionally mature individual. Self-awareness is the recognition of the self as a distinct entity; self-initialization is the ability to initiate actions, thoughts, and feelings from that sense of self; and differentiation is the ability to maintain that self-definition even within intense emotional relationships or high-stress environments. Comparison of the Three Stages Self-Awareness Internal/External Recognition Knowing "I exist" and "I have thoughts/feelings" Recognizing your reflection in a mirror (Rouge test) Self-Initialization Agency and Action Starting behaviors based on internal needs, not just reactions Taking the initiative to change behavior rather than waiting for others Differentiation Autonomy within Connection Remaining yourself while connected to others, managing emotions Being a distinct tree in a forest, not a vine climbing on others How They Differ: Self-Awareness is the foundational "knowing" (I am here). Self-Initialization is the functional "acting" (I can act on my own behalf). Differentiation is the mature "balancing" (I can be myself and connect with you without losing my autonomy). A person can be self-aware (know they are angry) but poorly differentiated (become totally consumed by the anger and lose their ability to act rationally). How They Fit Together These three stages form a developmental and functional continuum: Foundation (Self-Awareness): A child must first recognize themselves in a mirror (Differentiation Level 1) and understand their own body and mind as separate from their mother or environment. Agency (Self-Initialization): Once the self is recognized, the individual begins to "initiate" their own actions, such as recognizing their own needs, making decisions, and setting personal goals. Maturity (Differentiation): A fully differentiated person uses their self-awareness and initialization skills to maintain their own thoughts and feelings when under pressure or in relationships with others. The Integrated Cycle: Self-awareness informs what needs to change; self-initialization provides the agency to attempt that change; and differentiation allows the person to remain stable during the process of change. Without differentiation, a person may be self-aware and try to initialize change but get pulled back into old patterns by others.
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sonatime
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1/18/2026, 1:03:54 AM
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You’ve got me in a biblical moment thinking of my answer to "our" friend. @braven has been kind and contributed to my peace, even if I'm unsure about the reverse. Awareness often brings unrest or at least overthinking in my case, but life seems designed with honest and maybe properly harsh feedback loop. Positive when on the right path, while negative feedback helping course correct. John 14:27 ESV 27 Peace I leave with you; my peace I give to you. Not as the world gives do I give to you. Let not your hearts be troubled, neither let them be afraid. Isaiah 48:22 ESV 22 “There is no peace,” says the Lord, “for the wicked.” I used to think that verse applied mainly to people, then I was fooling myself thinking "no rest for the wicked" applies mainly to rebellious spirits, but of course it will affect everyone on the wrong path
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braven
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1/18/2026, 6:56:20 PM
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On what seems to be like a daily basis....I repeat...like a mantra. *No rest for the virtuous.....or the wicked.* Odd stuff, but the truth of it....staggering. Peace.😇
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rusalka
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1/18/2026, 5:50:57 AM
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sonatime
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1/18/2026, 5:59:39 AM
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Difficult challenge, maybe overthink your own self is ok but then just relax with others apart for few things that might be important and just keep it chill and relaxed. Make yourself happy and then try to help others:) if overthinking starts to be a problem then being busy with manual stuff could help ease the mind. The times are certainly special... "Civilization begins with order, grows with liberty, and dies with chaos." — Will Durant
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1/18/2026, 6:06:50 AM
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braven
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1/18/2026, 6:17:44 AM
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There is a company named Volo...they make a few pretty good strands. One ....Marshmallow Milk. Most everything they make is good...but I love that name. I mean who doesn't love marshmallows and milk? Cause if ya didn't before, you will after. 🤣 Peace.😇
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1/18/2026, 6:51:26 AM
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sacredcow
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1/18/2026, 7:34:17 PM
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You may want to do edibles if you don't like the smell. The stronger the bud, the more it smells...
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1/18/2026, 7:41:31 PM
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sacredcow
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1/18/2026, 7:48:07 PM
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If you live in a city that it is legal, you should go check out a dispensary for sure. They will have many options and different ones will have different supplies. Join the dark side:)
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1/18/2026, 7:53:06 PM
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sacredcow
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1/18/2026, 7:49:09 PM
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I unfortunately can't get to explicit about the plant. I do not want to finish off my ten years not being "free".
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1/18/2026, 7:54:13 PM
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sonatime
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1/18/2026, 8:22:06 AM
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NGL, Durant strikes me as a crypto jesuit workaholic:) I like quotes and thoughts but I hate reflecting on the actual person themselves because that takes too much effort and then too much explaining:) rusalka, do you inhale?:)
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sacredcow
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1/18/2026, 7:38:52 PM
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Weed just chills people out who need to smoke weed. Some people are just shit people who smoke weed and it makes them more shitty. Some people use it as an excuse. Some people need it not to go crazy...
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sonatime
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1/18/2026, 9:08:22 PM
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all it takes is one vice:) ciggies are more potent then one realizes but I would try over the counter nicotine "lethal if inhaled" - products that are used to grow marijuana... "Never let a good opportunity to poison go to waste" - my quote:) California Insider report: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=EHcC_O44rYo 
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1/18/2026, 9:10:23 PM
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